Stars from the Heart

We’re in the last few hours of 2016 and I’m reflecting on the past few weeks and the many stars that have died.  It’s also a focus on the Superstars that die during the year and well, 2016 took an abundance of famous people from Harrington to Bowie to Henderson to Wilder to Reynolds and so many in between.

I have to ask, what about the other Stars that many lost this year?  These are stars in our lives, they may not be famous to you or me but they were Superstars to their families.

The focus is always on the famous names, of course it is, they lead famous lives.  We see their names and faces everywhere.  We follow what they do in the newspapers, on TMZ and all of Social Media.

However, the other Stars in our Lives are also famous to us.  They lead lives that are inspiring and caring and are needed by each of us on a personal level.  We see their names and faces everyday and everywhere.  We follow them on Social Media too.

When we lose Stars our Personal Stars it’s heartbreaking.  When the end of the year comes and everyone goes on and on about the Ultra Famous that died, it can feel terrible, what about my Star?

I’m here to tell you that I remember your Stars, your family members and they mattered not just to you but to those around you as well.  They were inspirational to others and many people miss them and think of the moments shared and the family they left behind.

At work 1 co-worker lost his mom AND Dad, another’s Mom passed away and yet another’s Father In-Law left the physical world.  My friend and co-worker’s Mom, Brother, Uncle and Cousin died and I watched her heart break each day.  On Christmas Eve a co-worker died in a car crash going home.  My friend Kelli lost her Dad, Eric’s brother passed away and a few others loved ones died.

This isn’t a post to make you sad as we head into the New Year.  It’s to remind you that there are Stars Everywhere!  We are all special to those around us and we are ALL FAMOUS and Inspirational!  Every person matters and should be and will be remembered no matter if they’ve been featured on TMZ or Page 6.

I’ve always had this idea since I was little that when someone leaves this physical world they go to dance in the sky and when it becomes nighttime, they are the stars in the sky.  So, when you lookup and see that sparkle, it’s someone’s loved one as the Star in the Sky.

2016 adds many more Stars to the Sky …… Glenn, Alan, Waylon, Flo, Zsa Zsa, Ron, Abe, Carrie AND Mom, Dad, Bro, Uncle, Cousin, Friend too!  The Stars in the Sky are the Stars from our Hearts xo

 

Join Suzie’s Challenge

So close to a new year and I keep trying every year to lose some of me. Although I do love my “Fatgirl” persona, Hey don’t get upset I AM the Superhero Cousin of BatGirl *winks*
Anywho, back to losing some of myself, I find it hard to pay a weekly fee for someone to weigh me and talk to me about unrealistic goals, especially in a room filled of other people that have been trying the same things for years and getting no where.  Sorry Oprah and the other’s on those commercials, You have $$ for Personal Chef, Personal Trainers and you do  NOT correctly represent this company.
I also don’t feel like eating cardboard tasting food and this also is unrealistic because what do you do when you are out? Bring it with you? Waiter, can you microwave this for me.  Oh, should I mention the salt content in said frozen and packaged foods you are paying for?  Marie, Dan and the others that commercialize this product, do you believe they are telling the whole truth?  They also have the $$ for Personal Trainers to sculpt them into shape.
I’m not a picky eater, ok well maybe I am ….. I know my body and what it can handle and not. Sorry Spicy foods, I’ll be sick for days and many of the eat this not that foods make me ill.
It’s been my experience that when I do diet to try and lose weight, I get sick, really sick, since I’m 10.  Now, I really don’t want to have surgery because LMFAO if you know me, don’t you think I’ve already had enough of those?  I know a few people who have had the surgery and it’s not lasted in helping them with weight issues, that would be the gastric bypass.  The couple I know with the lapband ….. it’s dieting with a foreign objet in you and sometimes it slips.  How many times do you want to have a doctor work inside you to adjust the band?
I live alone and cooking for one really sucks so I struggle with overcoming that. I won’t say it’s depressing but it reminds me of the “loner” I am because of what happened when I was 9.  Ahhhh that’s another story LOL
I can say unless absolute necessary in 2016 I gave up fast food, No pizza is not a fast food, you know the places I mean.
I’ve also given up Soda! The conversation I had with my doctor and that was a good start because I let her have a conversation, she knew the boundaries about not using the O word or the T word …….. my 2 least favorite words in all languages.  “I’d rather you eat a pound of chocolate than have soda,” she said  and it will be a year in February since I gave that up.  However I will admit there was a slip of one glass and that was 3 times.
I got the Apple Watch for the Activity part, I love that it tells me to stand up and move. It’s helped a lot, I’ve lost a tiny bit but more than that with the 3 things above my blood pressure is down and they can say it’s the pills but I’ve been on those pills with nothing happening for years.  I personally think it’s the quitting soda.
So, what is all this about?  Well, what I’m getting at is who wants to be a real friend with me?  Who’s up for a challenge?  Who wants to join me on this journey?
I know the goal that they and I say they as in society have for me but I don’t give a crap about that.  My goal for Our Goal is much more realistic …..
My goal is to get moving and get back some more energy. I’d love to smooth the body down but doing this alone really sucks and has been my failure.  I’m looking for a partner, more than one is great and we can make it a group!
This Is NOT a Resolution ….. This Is A Challenge, My Challenge
Who Wants To Join Suzie’s Challenge ???

Friendship Remotely

Some times, a person that you only know through Television in a way becomes a ‘friend’. I know y’all will think I’m crazy for saying that. However, this situation is a bit different because he, Dan Wheeler, has shared so much of himself and his family not just on QVC but on Facebook and other media outlets. Perhaps it’s because what he’s shared is of his wife, Beth, and their battle with her Cancer.

Beth has been fighting Endometrial cancer for 5 years. A hard fought battle and she and their family have done it with grace and love. Over the last months the Cancer came on with such force and 5 weeks ago Beth was hospitalized. They tried platelet transfusions which sadly did not work and Beth left this world on Friday, October 30th.

By all that I’ve seen of Beth, she was a wonderful wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, sister and friend. She will be missed by all who knew her personally and now by so many because of Dan’s blog sharing.

Hold everyone you love close and be sure to let them know how you feel about them. Cancer really does Suck!

You should know that this story of Beth is personal for me as I feel so lucky and blessed, I found my Uterine which can also be called Endometrial, so very early and survived again. I feel such sadness for Beth and her family, she had so much love and didn’t deserve to leave them so soon.

All I can say is this, Cancer is a battle, it is a fight and there are way to many types and too many people diagnosed. Those that are Survivors we Celebrate but we should also Remember and Celebrate the lives of those who have lost their battles with Cancer.

Is there a cure, I really dont know based on this is a disease from your cells and that is what we are made up from. Can the CSP-3 study that is tracking habits and lifestyles that the American Cancer Society is doing (thank you Dan Adler and others for being a part of this) find the answers, I don’t know.

If you listen to everything they say, then you will never eat anything again. Cancer shouldn’t be about fear and I hope you do not take that away from anything I ever say. The default cause of course is my least favorite word in every language, the O word that I will never type out. I was 8 and one of the healthiest kids around, no history in the family and bam there it was the first time. When they focused on the O word they totally missed the 2nd battle I’d have and still have, hence the hate of the O word.

We should live life to the fullest and laugh as much as we can. I think we should also eat what we like and what we can (allergies and diabetes aside) just do so as all things in moderation. You know yourself better than anyone else, you know when something is wrong. If you do find any changes going on with yourself, please get thee to a doctor, there are signs and many of them are quiet.

I started this about a remote friend, who I will never meet, Dan Wheeler from that home shopping station QVC.  His wife, Beth, has left an imprint on me and many others through what he has shared from his heart. Beth will be remembered by so many and Celebrated not just by her family and friends.  They have also shared Beth’s memorial celebration service, so touching and filled with love. From this service, I’ve added, “See You Again,” by Carrie Underwood.

I can only send remote hugs and love to the entire Wheeler Family, and know that Beth will always be with them and everyone she has touched.  R.I.P Elizabeth Ann (Johnson) Wheeler, I know that you are dancing with the angels. xoxo

The Wheeler Family  Elizabeth Ann (Johnson) Wheeler

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On Joy and Sorrow

I love this and had to share with everyone. Please be sure to visit Jodi’s blog Life In Between.

the creative life in between

joy and sorrow winter pine snow icicle

A dear friend shared this amazing piece with me yesterday, and I had to share it.  It was in response to yesterday’s post,  Untold Story.

And this photo I took on a brief walk yesterday afternoon seemed to perfectly align with the message in the poem.

On Joy and Sorrow
Kahlil Gibran

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you…

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