Changing Names

I started my blog in 2014 because I thought it would be fun to just give my views on life. I was in the middle of a Virtual World Game Called, Second Life and I thought this would bring them both together. Designing clothes in Second Life and I thought that was a good word for a blog because I’d be writing on my designs on life too. It was so easy coming up with that name, but I found that I wasn’t writing about Second Life and certainly not about my SweetReds Designs collection.

Fast forward to 2018 and I want to redefine my blog and get back to writing in it more. I need to share my stories again, even if no one is reading them and by the site’s stats, no one really has been. But that’s another blog entry to write LOL. This time however, OMG it’s been excruciatingly difficult to find a name.

I always need help choosing things, just because I like to bounce ideas off other people. Renaming my blog would be no different. I came up with several ideas and set out to poll my friends and coworkers. The S Word, Suzieable, The Daily Suzie, The Kinloch Post, Giggling Addict, Designed Impulse, My Better Laugh, Read Between The Lines and even my original name, Designs By Suzie. My friends were off and running picking their favorites and even added their ideas ……. Cue Suzie, The Super SuzieQ, Giggles Gossip, Suzie Talk and Suzie’s Scene.

The leader was, The S Word and I was ok with that, it was in my Top 3, but then a co-worker read it as The Sword. Oh Shit! I couldn’t get it out of my head, there it was everywhere I looked, thesword.  I googled it and up came Excalibur, how to use a sword and a website I can’t even mention.  Sadly, the fan favorite was not going to work.

2nd place belonged to, The Daily Suzie, and I like it! Until I got to thinking, would I be blogging every day?  I’m not that good, if you look at my past blogs they are very far apart.  Though I want to fix that, I just can’t guarantee that it would be daily, and so that choice went out.

What do I do, What’s in a Name ……. hence the blog post from the other day LOL

How important is the name of the blog, should there be a theme to it.  It’s making me mental!  Hmmm, Suzie’s Ward, because if you are reading this you must be crazy like me LOL.

I took a look at another favorite, Suzie’s Scene but you know it ….. that domain was taken. So I did the thesaurus check and came up with different words for scene: place, set, show, site, spot, stage, sphere, planet, sector, zone, universe, and world.  I just wasn’t really feeling it and Suzie’s Universe is a children’s show in the UK so that was a big no.  Can you imagine, Suzie’s World…. Excellent  LMAO.

A few liked sphere and another said that sector would bring in my love of comics and sci-fi.  So I went off on another tangent into how I get my batgirl cousin into my blog name.  I’ve Got It……… Belfry!  “I believe there is a bat in my belfry” Then I thought would everyone get that?  What kind of folks would be brought in to read my blog, Suzie’s Belfry?  Alas, another google of Belfry and Ward and those are the names of people, so out the window they went.

I’m over thinking this, yup yup yup yes I am, I always do, it’s a major flaw of mine.  Checking out, how to find the best name for your blog/website and lots of write down words associated, use the thesaurus, don’t get stuck on .com you can use others, blah blah blah.  Then I looked at how many domain names were not the names of the blog.  So maybe I can use The S Word and just call it suzieswords .com, but I still couldn’t get thesword out of my head.

One Girl, One Journey (taken), Heart of the Matter (taken), Oh That Suzie, Suzie in Progress (am I really), I started coming up with other ideas which was adding to the problem and making me giddy.

Then I’m reading, what’s your niche, what are you writing about, who’s your audience?   Well I don’t know my niche, I really don’t, so that’s no help.  I write about whatever I feel like on that day.  Going back through my blogs, it’s about life and loss, love, family, snow, music, who am I, cancer, surviving, helping others and more.  What I write is whatever “tickles” me that day, it’s what I come up with when I see something, hear something and/or something I want to say out loud and get off my chest.  I write as I do most things, on Impulse.  There it is, that’s the word, which was the word in my personal choice before I started asking friends for help. Ok, it’s a Suzie Impulse, hmmmm

Now, Who is my audience, I don’t know, I really don’t, kind of like my niche.  I have a lot of people on FaceBook, but when I blog maybe I get 6 to look at it.  It’s kind of like my life, I’m always there to help others, donate, shop, go to events but when it’s my turn, cue the crickets because it’s silent.  So I really should throw out all the advice and the poll and go with my gut and what I think…….

I think I’m Impulsive, if you really know me then you know I am LOL  I like to think I can be inspirational.  There is someone out there who tells me, when she reads my writing, I am inspiring and should write a book.  However, I can’t call myself inspirational, it’s just not my style.  So how about motivational, yeah maybe but you know impulsemotivation is taken.  I’m told from all the sites about how to name your blog that all the good ones will already be thought of, yup, they are right LOL

Should I add my name?  Does my name need to be in the domain/blog name?  Is that the focal point, me?  What’s in a name (yup that’s when I wrote that posting)  I look in the mirror, I don’t mind what I see, I’ve done my best ….. Cue Michael Jackson’s song, “man in the mirror.”  But is my name a really a focus? It is to me that you say and spell it right, hahaha

So, let’s go back to why I named my original, Designs by Suzie.  I don’t know if anyone but me got the play on the word Designs, they were my designs of clothing, of art, of life and what I interpret all that to be.  I still believe that but I think there’s more to say and it doesn’t have to come from Suzie.  If you’ve seen me on FaceBook you know there is inspiration out there that I’ve observed and want to pass along so it’s not always Suzie’s Designs.  There I have it, my name is not necessary!

Motivational, I think So, Inspirational, I think So, but do I need to say that too or can it be implied?  Sometimes I am deep or profound or maybe just really long winded so yeah, those words work.  Other times I’m just “stupid” or silly or annoying and maybe quick witted, I don’t think those words work then.

Design: verb, past tense: designed; past participle: designed.   “1) decide upon the look and functioning of (a building, garment, or other object), typically by making a detailed drawing of it. Synonyms: plan, outline, map out, draft.  2) do or plan (something) with a specific purpose or intention in mind. Synonyms: intend, aim, devise, contrive, purpose, plan, tailor, fashion, adapt, gear; mean, destine. (this paper is designed to provoke discussion)”

Hmmmmm, my first gut idea that no one else but 1 picked keeps coming back to me and I do like it.  Perhaps I was right when I first came up with Designs by Suzie.  Times have changed though and I want more depth to it and not all about my name.  Its taken time and a long thought process.  Many won’t be happy about it but right now on this impulse I don’t care because most of them won’t be reading my blog/website anyway.

If you are reading this post in its entirety then you know what a labor it was to come to this conclusion and the thought process behind it.  I will be moving on from over to a hosting service to do much more with it, to share more and reach many and hopefully, to inspire and motive them.  It will be about life, loss, weight, exercise, lifestyle, clothing, love, family, music and yes ……. snow!

I look forward to your comments, ideas and walking the journey through everything at Designed Impulse

What’s in a name?

Shakespeare wrote, “a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” So does that mean that a name really doesn’t make a difference? Sad, because I do like to say we are all unique and a name helps with that.

Take my name, Suzanne Marie, not to be confused with Susan Mary. I really was a surprise to my parents, two times actually, first with the fact that 7 years after they had their youngest boy ….. Mom was pregnant. The 2nd surprise was that after 3 boys …… I was a girl! Now, what to name me, mom and dad were prepared for Scott Christopher, but a girl …… what do we call her?

They each came up with ideas but the other knew someone personally or an actress or someone that made them not like that name. I like this story because it makes me feel extra special and it always makes me giggle. Now, my grandmother, Mildred, forbid them to use her name and so when they did decide on my first name, my Middle name could not be Mary, as that was my other grandmother’s name (it would not be fair).

What made mom and dad choose Suzanne? The TV was on in the hospital one day and there she was, Suzanne Pleshette. Dad said, Suzanne, I like that and mom said, that actress always plays good parts, good and nice girls and never in the bad papers. A few years later I remember my mom telling me to remember it’s Suzanne always and we spell the shorter version of my name as S U Z I E. So there it is, out in the open to everyone who has wondered why I cringe when people call me Susan, Suzy, Susie or Sue. These many years later, on rare occasions, I do allow those names, depending on the person using it.

Many other nicknames have been “hatched” over the years, Suzie Q, or just Q and with my giggle and red hair up in ponytail Pebbles. In high school, I decided to take French and I can say I loved hearing my name translated as Suzette. This version even tickled my mom into a smile. Though I added the letter A to the end, when I signed up to Second Life, Suzetta was born. Inside that game, my friends call me SweetReds. In recent years friends started calling me Gigz, which of course makes me giggle.

So, maybe Shakespeare is right, this Suzanne called by any of THESE other names is still Suzanne. Heheheeheh


Destination CHICAGO

Can you believe it, I actually took vacation time from work to actually go on vacation!!!

August 2004 is the last vacation I have been able to go on.  That was a memorable trip as it was to Egypt for a month to meet my now Ex family, but I got to see all the fantastic places I dreamed about for many years.  Since then, my vacation time ends up being extra sick days cause when the brain tumors want the day off ….. they get the day off LOL

We realized this year that my time off wasn’t the right amount and I got some days added. WooooHooo and yippy skippy for me!  The blizzard that took place in January sealed the deal and where I’ve wanted to go for some years now was becoming a reality.

Y’all have read in my previous blogs how much I love my family and I’ve got Three Great Big Brudders.  Well the youngest of those 3 is Kevin and he lives nearby so we see him when he stops by with the kids.  Big brother John is down in Florida and though it may be a few years, we’ve been lucky to drop in and visit.  He’s in Orlando so there’s Disney World, Yankee’s Spring Training and I even got to catch Elton John and Billy Joel’s dueling pianos concert.  But Steve, well he’s been in Chicago since, hmmm many years, and when he comes home for Christmas weekend it’s s the only time we get to see him.

“Suz, when are you coming to visit?”  He even gave me a plane ticket gift card for Christmas one year.  I kept trying to explain, that I’ve learned the hard way to listen when I wake and “the body” says ummmm No, you’re not going anywhere today.  So unless it’s Friday Night to Sunday Night, vacation hasn’t been possible.  I have found places to go and people to see on the weekends,  Philadelphia Sci-Fi (PhilCon).  Although most of my weekends now are with Mom and Dad, checking up and keeping them moving around.  Lots of Laughs too.  But no trips to Chicago till Now!

When we worked out my correct time off I smiled and said, I know where I want to go this year!  I even hummed Chicago Chicago It’s My Kind Of Town LOL.  The question became when, when is the best time for work, best time for mom and dad?  Then it happened,  I was supposed to go to the Heroes & Villians FanFest at the NJ Meadowlands Expo the weekend of January 22-23rd.  FanFest to meet the stars of TVshows Arrow, Gotham, Legends of Tomorrow and The Flash.

However, Mother Nature had other plans and the Blizzard happened.  Mind you that I was not sad about the snow, being winter girl and it was the weekend before my birthday, you can read all about my love of snow in previous blogs.  But, it did screw up plans for the FanFest, although many of the stars were there and lots of people were in the hotels around, it was fun to watch the postings on Facebook.

I was a tad bummed about missing the HVFF until I went to the website to see where would they be next……. Chicago March 12-13!!  A quick text to Steve, “Hi Steve, just wondering, how is the weather in Chicago in March?”  I explained why and he told me to think it over and get back to him.  The plan was in motion, in my head at least,  FanFest 12-13 and how great because Steve’s birthday is on the 10th.

A few days of thought, and planning with Work and Mom/Dad for the time away and things were set.  Of course, what do I wear, had to get some new things because I didn’t want to look bad for Steve and his friends.  I actually wasn’t nervous, of course I do my best planning and thinking at the last minute.  Including repacking 3 times, I was worried about the 50lb weight of the bag (it only came in at 29lbs).  Last minute trip to Best Buy for a charger to go in my purse to make sure the phone stayed ok every day.  I was excited, visit with Big Brudder Steve, FanFest (Colin Donnell, Oh My) the Sears Tower and meeting Steve’s friends.  Oh My I’m actually taking a vacation!

Well the plan and vacation sure did come together and I arrived on March 10th staying till the 15th, and what a Great Time I Had!  I went to so many places, so many things to do and see,  such great food and tons of photos.  They can’t fit in 1 blog LOL. I’ll let you absorb this one, feel free to read it again or look back to previous posts.  I’ll be blogging about the Destination Chicago Adventures over the next few days, including new friends, the H&V FanFest, scrumptious food, the cute cat, museums, views from rooftops and a very memorable cab ride.

Sing along with Frank from Robin and the 7 Hoods ……. “My Kind of Town (Chicago Is)”